The game of comparison is a dangerous one and highly consequential. When you evaluate your life based on ideas that are unfounded you in turn hinder your growth and surrender power over your life. And it’s not worth your perception on someone because of who their parents are, where they live and being able to afford certain luxuries. You don’t see what’s on the inside – behind the smile.
Pretty Girls Hurt Too
We have insecurities
We get heartbroken
We lose our way sometimes
We're not invincible
Material things don’t shield one from pain. Life does not discriminate. Each persons circumstance results in different struggles. No one person’s struggle is more significant than another, no matter what it is or how trivial it may seem. As much as we are alike, we experience things differently which is in line with our uniqueness.
There’s no manual on living life — we just have to figure it out as we go, albeit there are times when we feel directionless. Experience however makes for a solid foundation; you have to be bold and stand by yourself and what you believe. Don’t be easily swayed by the small-minded. Continue reading →
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Many people go through their adult lives taking care of other people with little focus on their needs. They fail to realize that in order to help and better the people around them, they have to take care of themselves first. They fall into a routine which leaves no time for fun or the necessary “me” time. Don’t get my wrong, there’s nothing wrong with being responsible however, when rare opportunities come along sometimes you have to seize the moment. Of course it’s so much easier to be spontaneous when you’re single, child less and suffer from the “only child syndrome”. It’s especially difficult for the women who was thrown into adulthood at a very young age; the single mothers who want a better life for their children. Women are the pillars of most families and the bringer of life so we don’t have the luxury of being carefree. In addition we have a very small time frame to accomplish so much.
I myself have been trying to find the balance between work and play as I get settled into adulthood while trying to facilitate adventure. After all I am a nature lover and that crave for adventure is unlike any other. The need to travel has been at its peak lately and I can’t seem to tame the free spirit in me.
To all the hardworking, devoted people don’t forget that moments lost can never be regained. It’s not about doing things that’s over-the-top and beyond your means, but the little indulgences count. Life is the ultimate puzzle and no matter how frustrating it can be we must find ways to cope while continuing to put the pieces together.
We live in a world where in order for us to coexist as a species we must form different relationships with each other. In particular, intimate and non-intimate (friendships) relationships where there is a genuine expectation of respect.
In doing so, we shouldn’t treat others in ways we would not like to be treated, Or We should treat others the way we would like to be treated.
Some might ask well, what does that really mean.
Let me break it down for you.
It starts with the way in which we communicate. Any individual of sound mind would agree that efficient communication is essential to the functioning of society. However, our biggest issue is our inability to listen. We don’t take the time to analyze the message and are quick to give a response.(The message is received but most times it’s not decoded properly). Hence the communication process breaks down. Our response should not only verbal but also in our actions. Growth is everything.
Other factors that affect the communication process:
Tone of voice
Whenever we neglect to fulfill duties that we agreed to willingly, our integrity is called into question. In the event that you cannot fulfill them then that information should be communicated in the appropriate manner.
Don’t be a flake!
There’s a thick line between being strong willed and being ignorant. We tend to not be forthcoming in admitting when we are at fault in a situation. There are those who believe they can do no wrong but are the first to point out someone else’s faults. Take a look in the mirror, perspective is everything.
Be and accept where you are now. Do not allow expectations to get in the way of your growth, and compare your current level of awareness to the experiences of others. Trust me, when you are ready to proceed further, intuitive signs and the right people will come into your life to help guide you, especially when you are willing to grow.
They say you are what you eat;
the same goes for the company you keep.
You shouldn’t have to be less than your very best
because you fear others will feel inadequate.
Dismiss those who don’t have your best interest at heart,
for their negative energy will harbor within you
and ultimately be a reflection of you.
Beware of those who stroke your ego and hide the truth,
their intentions are cruel they want to see you do good but never better than them.
Anticipate the loathe and be ever ready to stand for what is right.
Differentiate but never hate
your foes, for they are the driver behind your success.
Surround yourself with those who make you hungry for life,
unleash your full potential
enhance your light and nourish your soul.
Guide you when you’ve lost your way.
Friends come and go
you’ve simply evolved past them and that’s okay
any loss is for something better to come.
In this journey called life, we are constantly being tested by the challenges we face everyday. The way in which we cope with the obstacles that we encounter builds character, and so we cannot allow the pain and rage define who we are. We must not be products of our circumstances! When we accumulate the burdens of our past we get trapped by them which in turn hinders our growth, and so our happiness is at stake.
We have ridiculous ideologies of what life should be and unrealistic expectations which makes us forget that we are human and so we are flawed. And although everything happens for a reason; part of the grand design, we have control over the choices we make.
In some cases the reasons behind the pain and rage are well founded but the support system is absent, not everyone can find the strength within them to overcome. In other instances we play the game of deflection; blame everyone else and not take responsibility for our actions.
The solution lies with spending time with yourself. Go on a spiritual journey; withdraw into the company of your thoughts; challenge your mind to explore depths of consciousness; hew and hack away at oneself; shed the many layers of your soul until you get to that point of recognition and acceptance. Then when you know what you want from life, set your goals and how you intend to achieve them.
It’s not expected that one is going to be automatically rid of their troubles, however, it’s critical to find a medium to channel all your emotions into something positive. This is best done by finding a cause you care deeply about and devoting your time, touching the lives of others I believe brings clarity and makes you more appreciative of life. We must always look forward and keep a positive mind.
Give yourself closure. If your mind is still at war with things of the past, you still live there. To grow you must let go.
Over the past 3 1/2 years I have embarked on an educational journey that has impacted my life significantly. The tertiary level of education by itself is already stressful but when you’re a science major it takes on a life of its own and replaces the life you once knew. You not only have to attend classes but endure long rigorous lab hours. It has pushed me to the brim and unleashed strength I never knew I had. There were periods of isolation where I was only concerned with things that helped me pass exams and kept me sane.
It is evident that the system is flawed; there isn’t enough time for one to truly understand and appreciate what’s being taught. It makes students more concerned with passing than anything else which in essence defeats the purpose of the experience. We go through the motions and at the end of it, all we have to show is a piece of paper that society says determines our worth.
I’ve learned that it’s not about how much you study, the amount of effort you give or how great you did in high school. It requires a very unique skill set that allows you to stay ahead; recognizing when your professor is giving indirect assistance; being able to recognize your strengths and weaknesses and acting accordingly …do you retain more information in the morning or at night? It’s about finding flaws in the system that can be exploited while retaining your integrity.
I have gained appreciation for general education courses not just because they boost your GPA but some have changed my perspective on life in the midst of all the chaos. The most important lesson of all is that you essentially teach yourself. It’s like being given pieces of a puzzle sometimes not all of the pieces and having to put it together within a specific amount of time. I am grateful for the opportunity, for I have accomplished something not many can. I am grateful for the people who I’ve met and the memories that will be with me for a lifetime.